The Science of Wholeness: Part One
LESSON #6: SEX AND SPIRITUALITY, SELF CONTROL SEX
The Conspiracy of Nature
Steps Toward Ecstasy
The 2nd Chakra
HOW TO RISE ABOVE THE USUAL INSTINCT TO LOSE VITAL FLUIDS
most of the sexual cravings and desires disappear more and more and are replaced by an ever-increasing and ever-expanding sense of satisfying blissful and emotional fulfillment.
6.1: THE PHYSICAL MECHANISMS OF SEXUAL FLUID CONSERVATION (SELF CONTROL SEX) EXPLAINED: As mentioned earlier, it is vital to first fully master and understand how prana flows through the body's energy centers through deep concentration (meditation), regular use of adaptogenic herbs, correct eating, and water fasting. Then, if we put aside our sexual preconceptions and indulge regularly in enjoyment of the following techniques, the potential pleasures partaken of can be great, at the very least, psychologically healing and drastically alter one's attitude about life. By practicing control of the same muscles that can stop the flow of urine in midstream, one can learn to stop nocturnal emissions (wet dreams) and loss of vital fluids during an intimate encounter with the opposite sex. Naturally, a strong build-up of sexual pressure would result, unless redirected, rechanneled and expanded into bliss, vitality, love and devotion for God and to God in one's partner using the vital information given in the preceding and following lessons. With regular practice of successful transmutation,
Real Sexual Wholeness
The Pranic Principle
Celibacy, Sex and Anxiety Disorder
VITAL NOTE: Excess animal protein from cheese and meat tends to block spiritual energy and therefore makes transmutation of lust, anger and all other base emotions and desires nearly impossible! The ionized water, adaptogenic herbs and other botanicals, vegetarian whole foods, super foods and other supplements mentioned elsewhere in this book are a vital factor required for success in the conservation of, expansion of and transmutation of sexual energy which is essential for the creation of ojas. Meditation, yoga and breathing exercises without ojas and the vitality of excellent nutrition would be like trying to go skiing, bobsledding, and ice skating without the snow and ice! Make perfect celibacy in thought, word and deed the ultimate goal, but never without the healthfood vitality needed to make sexual conservation very pleasurable and enjoyable. Raw fruit, raw vegetables, botanicals, oats, rice, soy, egg, nut and seed milks provide that vitality while the extremely common high animal protein junk food meals and snacks of today's world seem to take it away or block it. One cannot fail if both diet and mental outlook are purified.
6.2: SPONTANEOUS NOCTURNAL EMISSIONS CAN BE AVOIDED: The best thing that ever happened to me was learning how to completely and permanently stop all loss of sexual fluids. It took years to master, but the benefits are awesome! However, any build-up of sexual fluids is going to increase the likelihood of spontaneous nocturnal emissions. In order to prevent spontaneous nocturnal emissions and therefore always have a constant reservoir of sexual energy (for a constant source of bliss), give a definite message to your subconscious mind before sleeping that there are to be NO WET DREAMS and that you would contract the urine release-control muscles automatically to stop a wet dream from taking away those precious sexual fluids.
The most difficult to control are those nocturnal emissions that happen in very deep sleep but not dreaming. Even these "dreamless" emissions can eventually be controlled through more persistent commands to the deepest part of the subconscious (the part of the mind that influences habitual reflexes) while practicing regularly the specific muscle contractions that would stop a wet dream.
Correct nutritional support, including raw fruits and vegetables, saw palmetto berries, bee pollen, and pumpkin seed, avoiding all snacks, drinking plenty of water between complete meals, regular exercise and following carefully all the other principles, along with age and experience almost completely eradicates any possible future nocturnal emission. Pressure can build up, but nothing like the pressure or ugency you would get from a full bladder. It would be reabsorbed or lost in very small amounts like a reservior overflowing slightly.
Celibacy & Transmutation of Sexual Energy
Just as humankind has learned to master and control many natural forces in the world, a yogi (or yogini) is a very special (and unfortunately rare) individual who's inclination is to control and master the inner forces of nature, such as thoughts, emotions, cravings, and desires, especially the biological force of sexual energy. The yogi or yogini manages to successfully master his or her emotions and sexual energy not by force, but through purification of brain and body cells and then by absorption of vital prana. The transmutation of sex into inner peace, bliss, joy and love is the wonderful end result. One of the greatest mysteries of life is sex, sexual desire, and sexual energy. However, when sexual energy is lost in the process of reproductive activity, the spiritual life suffers.
6.3: SELF-DENIAL, DISCOMFORT OR ANY FORM OF SELF-PUNISHMENT IS NOT THE WAY TO WHOLENESS! Younger people tend to have much greater physical pressures to cope with, inexperience and their ability at self-control may be far more of a challenge and tricky to develop. Because their sexual needs tend to be so much greater, it may be much harder to try complete celibacy then, not to mention the fact that many will need to experiment and experience all aspects of their developing sexuality anyway to acquire a better understanding of themselves as a sexual being. However, because older people's bodies tend to produce smaller quantities of vital fluids over a periond of time than in younger, healthier people, it therefore would make much more sense that older people try to conserve their sexual fluids, especially if they feel they don't not have enough libido to begin with. After all, the fastest way to reduce libido is to use it up, of course! In cases of low or no sexual desire, the foods, supplements and pracitices of this book should create the greater health and vitality required for greater libido.
The correct methods of sexual fluid conservation and transmutation should never involve intense sexual frustration nor repression of any kind. Self-denial and self-punishment is NOT the way to wholeness! To misinterpret these lessons regarding sex and spirituality can be counterproductive! Following the lessons faithfully, should easily lead to successful, natural conservation of sexual fluids. The ancient preagricultural diets of Stone Age man were similar to the kinds of foods I write about in this manual. I believe it had to have been very natural and easy in those days for certain individuals to contain one's vital fluids for greater strength, energy and resilience in the struggle for survival. Long periods of sexual abstinence may have been natural. Most species of animals are known to not be having sex all the time either! Some say that abstinence from sex is not natural, yet nothing at all is unnatural about abstinence and something very natural happens: the build up of one's inner strength and bliss and the opportunity to develop psychic ability.
A harmonious blending of sex and spirituality should never be a problem. Spirituality cannot exist without the proper alignment (transmutation) of sexuality. Embarrassment or a shameful attitude toward one's own sexuality is psychologically harmful, counterproductive and can cause a lack of self-acceptance, self-esteem, self-respect and self-love to the point you want to run away and hide from yourself, God or participating in any true religion! One can easily feel a deep sense of irony or conflict if while during a religious service one happens to remember what one did yesterday. These feelings of embarrassment can be dissolved when fully understanding that it is really a very common problem, and that sexual wholeness is just as important as spiritual wholeness and that the forced separation of sexual feeling from spritual feeling is NOT wholeness. Problems of this nature are enhanced further by other failures and dissapointments one may be undergoing. It is this feeling of worthlessness, sorrow and devastation that can be helped through much loving, tender, self knowledge, and meditation on the highest aspect of one's self.
The inner "melody" and light of the "Shabd" is said to be purest aspect of one's being one can actually hear and therefore meditate on. Meditation on the inner sounds is the safest and purest form of transmutation. Regular, correct, and faithful application of this high and wonderful technique can gradually transmute lust, anger, frustration and many other negative emotions into everlasting peace and wholesome joy. Whatever may be the case, an objective, shameless, even humorous attitude to sexual intercourse, desires, etc. is essential while at the same time one is to conserve, sublimate, gradually purify and transform this basic life principle into the ultimate fulfillment of kundalini awakening. In other words, try earnestly to be celibate, but if one can't, it is no use feeling distressed about it. Just don't give up! Work out a solution or compromise if necessary, until there is a breakthrough based on the establishment of self-knowledge/control, wisdom and successful transmutation.
Of course, long periods of abstinence can lead to a buildup of sexual desires reaching overwhelming levels of frustration, but the wise with the help of herbs, fruit, vegetables, water fasting, pranic vitality, orgone energy, and meditation, learn how to transmute even the most intense desires into unending, superior spiritual joy.
The secret is, the deeper the intensity of desire, the deeper the level of fulfillment (bliss, energy, love) possible.
It is far better to love and embrace God with all your heart and never look back at your failures, while gradually and patiently transmuting all into bliss and love. God will always love you for your efforts, and no man or woman is to be ashamed of their lower or basic urges. Everyone with a body had to enter this world through sex, conception and birth. Just as everyone who eats has to go to the restroom, have bowel movements, etc. the same goes for sex and release of physical sexual urges. We all share the same weaknesses, needs and tendencies along this line. Hours and hours of the deepest states of meditation may be the ultimate key to unending, perfect celibacy where the sexual energy is so much more awakened and free from the need of physical release and the soul is completely free of the urges of the mind and senses. Until then, all the transmutation tools I talk about are essential and make the days of perfect meditaions, love, joy and transmutation a reality much sooner.
6.4: IDEAL METHOD OF CONTRACEPTION? Regular practice and mastery of the LY breathing exercises should effectively rechannel one's urges into an inner fulfillment that surpasses sex. One's sensitivity can build up to the point of being able to find more and more profound, heavenly fulfillment and divine love, requiring less and less physical involvement. Holding back and then successfully transforming through breath the strong urge to lose sexual fluids during sexual intimacy into vast inner love and ecstacy should eventually and automatically reduce the need for any form of birth control, depending on how skillful and experienced the lovers become. Of course, it is not a 100% safe method right away, but it can become 100% once one is fully established in all aspects of my methods and foods involved in correct transmutation.
Learning to transmute is like trying to change the course of a river. It can also be analogus to building a dam for the purpose of holding back large quantities of water that would provide constant electric (kundalini!) power. A reservior of sexual fluid can be far more useful than allowing it to flow out all at once and therefore interrupting that vital flow of electricity (current of bliss!)
Once sexual fluids have reached their maximum capacity of containment, they can be released gradually through tantra yogic practices for the most satisfying, deeply loving experiences and for deeper meditations. If all nocturnal emissions are stopped, there cannot be any danger of "exploding," (which was what I used to think) because the glands work similar to a reservoir that overflows gradually while the rest is reabsorbed once maximum capacity is reached. This situation, of course, does vary with age.
6.5: EXERCISE REGULARLY THE URINE RELEASE CONTROL MUSCLES FOR MORE CONFIDENT SELF CONTROL: Regular practice of contracting and strengthening the muscles that control the release of urine is of key importance in the successful practice of self-control, especially when faced with the need to control nocturnal emissions or related situations. Correct transmutation creates a wondrously satisfying and liberating new way to infinitely better fulfillment without having any desire to lose vital fluids--in fact a strong opposing preference for countenance develops because of a sweet, unspeakable and beneficial joy is experienced more and more.
One becomes more and more aware of the many wonderful benefits that seem to come directly from vital fluids. It is in the way of countenance that one can enjoy more extended and much deeper meditations and levels of perfect concentration going so deep that samadhi is reached.
Long term conservation of vital fluids lead to ever deeper and vaster fulfillment (beyond the physical) routinely experienced through deeper and deeper meditations, deeper LY breathing and vibration/relaxation experiences. If there ever was a way to make life ideally satisfying, I think the above is a part of the way. Before you know it, you are working and living in bliss, and have naturally outgrown the need for ordinary physical sensuality. You become a vast channel of super sensual bliss and divine love.
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6.6: A GREAT BOOK ON TANTRA YOGA: If you are curious about the more sexual and physical possibilities of sexual self-control, sex and spirituality, you may want to read some good books on Tantra yoga. A really extensive and complete training program is:
THE ART OF SEXUAL ECSTASY by Margo Anand, a very detailed book full of excellent illustrations and vital information on everything you are afraid to ask about on the eastern art of love! It would be very difficult, without the aid of carefully balanced nutritional support, for most people to reach the goal of the aforementioned book on Tantra yoga: which is an ideally and deeply satisfying romantic love relationship of soul-communion and freedom from the most physical aspects of sex. There is much to learn on this subject, as well as much prejudice, counterproductive misunderstanding, and discomfort (in most spiritual organizations) of discussing sex to overcome.
6.7: THE COURAGE AND NECESSITY TO OPENLY DISCUSS SEX AND SPIRITUALITY: Because of the need to know about sex, its consequences, and its immense potential when conserved and how it can be used for spiritual awakening, it is therefore essential to discuss self control sex in any complete essay on yoga, mysticism and spirituality. It simply isn't practical to separate the concepts of sexual transmutation and spiritual truths while trying to write an honest-to-goodness way of finding wholeness. Is there a better way to deal with this potentially awkward and embarrassing situation? Our sexual and spiritual natures must combine to create a dynamic interface of sweet sensuality and the transmutng flame of God to ignite a wondrous, psychologically healing and transforming splendor of bliss at the deepest, most satisfying level of joy obtainable. I believe that one aspect cannot thrive and develop without the other aspect. It is how we are designed, it is the way we entered this world, and also the thing the most serious yogis and mystics must understand, conserve, transform and use to transcend the world. I also believe in long-lasting relationships leading to spiritual marriage with just the very highest, purest and deepest levels of expression as the ideal to aim for. To free ourselves from lust by transforming it into deeply fulfilling personal and universal divine love is the way I embrace wholehartedly.
The usual, heavy fertilization version of sex involves massive changes in the neurobiochemistry of the brain (similar to a shot of heroin) that are not good. The following website shares my views on the hazards of ordinary sex and offers a reasonable alternative: Reuniting: Healing with Sexual Relationships / "The Ecstatic Exchanges: Why They Work" See also:
Reuniting: Healing with Sexual Relationships / "Sex and Addiction"
THE ART OF SEXUAL ECSTASY |
Amazon.com editorial reveiw:
A Pleasant Guide To Enhancing Sexual Intimacy: This book can solve a lot of problems. Couples with failing relationships typically communicate little, have few common activities, and have poor or no sex. Learning Tantra is a fun activity that teaches couples to communicate and trust. Furthermore, Tantra gives couples a common activity that makes them feel special. They develop intimacy that their friends do not have.
The book is well-written and well-illustrated, and discusses many of Ms. Anand's experiences. It discusses Tantric sexual techniques, but does not discuss Tantric history and mythology in detail.
(For rest of this review, go here) -- Reviewer: Richard Ballard (United States) Jan. 12, 2000.